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The Four Horsemen: Contempt
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to continue our series on Dr. Gottman's four horsemen with horseman #3: Contempt. If you are just joining us, or have forgotten what we have...
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Four Horsemen: Contempt Part II
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to continue Monday's discussion on Horseman #3: Contempt. According to Malcolm Gladwell in his bestselling book Blink:“If Gottman observes one or...
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The Four Horsemen: Contempt Weekend Homework Assignment
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to continue Wednesday's discussion on Fondness and Admiration, which are two of the most crucial elements in a rewarding and long-lasting romance....
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The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling
Happy Monday! Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we continue our series devoted to Dr. Gottman's Four Horsemen with the last, but certainly not least, horseman: Stonewalling.If you've completely...
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The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling Part II
On Monday we introduced Stonewalling, Dr. Gottman’s fourth and final horseman. It is our goal this week to help you understand this particularly destructive communication style and learn to manage it....
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The Four Horsemen: Weekend Homework Assignment On Self Soothing
On Wednesday, we promised to follow our cold, hard facts about Stonewalling with a healthy alternative. Here is something warm and soft for you instead:The Practice of Physiological Self Soothing•...
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The Gottmans are coming to the East Coast!
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to take the opportunity to inform you about some very exciting upcoming events. In less than two weeks, we will be packing our bags and boarding an...
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An Introduction to the Gottman Method of Relationship Therapy
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we'd like to share an article from our friends at GoodTherapy.org, an organization dedicated to "Helping People Find Therapists & Advocating for Ethical...
View ArticleEsther Perel: The secret to desire in a long-term relationship
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to share a striking TEDTalks presentation from Esther Perel entitled, “The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship.” Fluent in nine languages,...
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Desire in a Long-Term Relationship: Part II
Greetings from Washington, D.C.! To our regular readers, we apologize for the extended gap between postings. We spent last week in Tampa, Florida training over 300 wonderful therapists and we will be...
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Desire in a Long Term Relationship: Part III
There's a reason why most fairy tales and romantic comedies end with a first kiss, a proposal, or even a wedding. Falling in love is easy. It's staying in love that can be the challenge. With that...
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Emotional Attraction: The Stress-Reducing Conversation
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to build off last week's discussion of maintaining desire in a long-term relationship by introducing a very important topic: emotional...
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Weekend Homework Assignment: How to Have A Stress-Reducing Conversation
In today's posting on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we'd like to build on Tuesday's post on emotional attraction by giving you easy, straightforward instructions for having a stress-reducing...
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Emotional Attraction: Maintaining Connection in Conflict Discussions
We’ve spent the last two weeks on The Gottman Relationship Blog discussing emotional intimacy, sharing tools to keep the fire alive in your relationship over the long haul. This week, we feel that it...
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Give Me Just One Word
You know the feeling you get when you're engaged in a stressful conversation? That feeling when you realize that you truly cannot handle the conversation you're having, that you actually cannot stand...
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Finding Common Ground: The Harvard Negotiation Project
In our last posting on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we talked about finding common ground during a conflict discussion and shared an exercise to help you and your partner understand each other’s...
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Finding Common Ground: Weekend Homework Assignment
To our readers across the country - from Seattle to Texas to New York - we hope you’ve had a safe and lovely Independence Day. The 4th of July is a wonderful time to reconnect with friends, family, and...
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Summer Romance: A message from Dr. Julie Gottman
We are excited to announce a new series on The Gottman Relationship Blog! Over the course of the next few weeks, we will be sharing practical, research-based tools from The Gottman Institute to...
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Summer Romance: Love Maps
As promised in last week’s posting on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we continue our Summer Romance blog series today with an exercise to help you build connection with your partner by updating your...
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Summer Romance: Reconnecting on Summer Vacation
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we continue our Summer Romance series with a special guest posting from our very own Laura Heck, LMFTA. In addition to her role as Director of Professional...
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